To live a contented and happy life, is something we all wish for. Yet for many, this state of being remains elusive. As difficult to hold on to, as capturing the mythical ‘Blue bird of happiness’. So why is it, that for so many people, no matter how hard they try, lasting happiness always seems so difficult to maintain?
It is said that true happiness must always come from within. And that the reason why so many people find it difficult to stay happy, is because their happiness is dependent on their circumstances, the people they interact with and their life experiences. All of which could change in an instant. Their happiness such a fragile thing. Easily damaged, torn down, and just like the spider’s delicate web, blown around and away by life’s turbulent breeze.
Finding inner happiness is not easy, but once found cannot be taken from you. For it has been created by you and no one else. It requires a shift in your thinking. Of choosing which thoughts you give space to, in your head. Do you spend all your time focusing on what you lack in your life or of feeling resentment and envious of other people. Or do you express gratitude and appreciation for what you do have, and see that you are blessed beyond measure? What we think we create. By focusing on abundance and thankfulness. You raise your energy vibration and attract more of the same into your life.
I would like to share with you if I may, some passages from the book ‘Eat Pray Love‘ by Elizabeth Gilbert. A truly inspirational lady, who gives a very honest account of her own search for happiness and sense of self.
“I keep remembering one of my Guru’s teachings about happiness. She says that people universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather, if you are fortunate enough. But that’s not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it.
You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it, you must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it. It is easy enough to pray when you are in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul to hold tight to it’s good attainments.
Recalling these teachings as I ride my bike so freely in the sunset through Bali, I keep making prayers that are really vows, presenting my state of harmony to God and the Universe, saying “This is what I would like to hold onto. Please help me to memorize this feeling of contentment and help me always to support it”
I could see in my own life, exactly where my episodes of unhappiness have brought suffering or distress or (at the very least) inconvenience to those around me. The search for contentment is, therefore, not merely a self-preserving and self-benefiting act, but also a generous gift to the world. Clearing out all your misery – get’s you out of the way. You cease being an obstacle, not only to yourself but to anyone else. Only then are you free to serve and enjoy other people.”
Lasting happiness is not something that is beyond our reach. For it is said that as human beings our true natural state is one of joy and love. How wonderful it would be to experience that more in our daily life. But to get to that point, I believe we must change the way in which we look at life. To create a much needed shift in perspective. As we become happier within ourselves, it cannot help but inspire and encourage those we care for, to become happier too. What makes you happy?