Failure isn’t a nice word. Some people fear it so much that they avoid doing anything, just so they don’t have to experience it. All of us, at one time or another, has failed at something – we are only human, after all – but, I’ll bet that you still remember every occasion where you failed in the past, and it’s likely that this has stopped you from trying again in the future.
Failing is a horrible feeling. If you didn’t receive criticism from somebody else, the chances are you gave yourself a hard time, especially if it was a project close to your heart. What you need to remember is that failure is just a means to success. You should try to look at failure as a step closer to the successful achievement of your goals. J.K. Rowling was rejected several times before she finally got herself an agent. What would have happened had she given up? Thomas Edison was said to have tried and failed over 1000 times before he came up with a working light bulb.
How can I overcome my Fear of Failure? The best thing to do is to take a note out of Nike’s book and ‘just do it!’ You might fail, but you might succeed. If you try and fail, write down what went wrong and learn from it. Think about how you can do it better the next time. We all learn from our mistakes and sometimes, the best lessons are those where we fail dramatically. We remember the worst mistakes because we don’t want to repeat them!
If you are too nervous to start something that you think you’ll fail at, you may benefit from working on your mindset first. A lot of athletes swear by visualization techniques before they enter an event. They imagine themselves running, or throwing the javelin, and they picture each step in perfect detail and really feel each action. They imagine it all running smoothly in their head. This not only helps their confidence, but it also helps the Law of Attraction and the universe to send them what they have envisioned – which is a perfect outcome.
You should picture yourself succeeding at least once a day, until you are ready to start working on your project. By visualizing your goal, you should have more of an idea of what could go wrong. This should help you prepare for failure in a more positive way. You can also write your goal down in the form of a positive affirmation. For example, you could write…I am successful in my job interview for the manager’s position, if you think you are going to fail a job interview. Repeating the affirmation daily will send a message to your subconscious mind and the universe that you intend to succeed at the job interview and circumstances should arrange themselves so that you do everything possible to ensure success.
What if I have already failed to achieve my goal? If this is the case, read through the article again. People only achieve their goals by learning from their failures. They keep going until they have achieved success. Try the visualization techniques and read books by people who have already achieved success in a similar area. Remember, failure is just another stepping stone on the route to success. Good Luck.