How often have you held back what you were wanting to say because you were worried about what others might think about you? Isn’t it funny how we often allow others to be who they are, even when we don’t particularly like or approve of their actions or words, and yet we are not prepared to do the same for ourselves.
Have you ever wondered why it is that some of the people around you do or say things that you find upsetting or annoying, but you still love being around them? The main reason we connect with others is because we are attracted to their energy. Often we believe the reason why others like us, is because of the way we act around them. Although some of that is truth, it is our energy that is the lighthouse beacon they are drawn to.
When we meet someone we ‘click’ with, we don’t know anything about them, but for some reason we want to be around them. The same is true of us. People are attracted to our genuine and unique ‘essence of being’. In fact, when we hide who we truly are, we are sending mixed messages. Our energy broadcasts who we are while our physical/thinking being tries to smother our truth. We sometimes get caught up in believing that we only want people to see the good in us. Or we might be a different person to many people, allowing only parts of us to show only within certain groups. It gets so confusing though, and after a while you may begin to wonder, ‘who is the real me?’ Isn’t it time you knew and celebrated that amazing and wondrous person?
A great way to find out who we are is to look at our belief systems. A lot of our belief systems aren’t really ours; they are from other people who have had a direct influence on our lives. We just assume they are our own, because they have been a part of us for so long.
Take a pen and paper and write down a list of what you believe in, your values that dictate how you live your life. Here are a few to help get you started: How do I feel about money? How do I feel about my behaviour? What do I think about the world we live in? What would I change and why? How do I feel about me as a person? There is no limit to this list, you can write as much or as little as you like. This is, after all, just a starting point. When you have finished your list, make a point of looking at it every day, adding more if you want to, or crossing off the ones that don’t seem to make sense any more.
At the end of 21 days, you will find you have a true list of beliefs that apply directly to you and how you believe your life should be. When we do this, we are better able to look at why we act like we do, why we hide who we are and what we need to change in order to be authentic. In fact, you may find that during the 21 days, you will have already instigated change and begun to embrace your uniqueness. It is when we take that first step towards being totally and unconditionally who we are, all those things we assumed were blockages or obstacles fall away from our path.
It is important to remember that if anyone doesn’t like the real you, they were never attracted to your energy in the first place, they were only drawn to the ‘superficial you’ that you used to project. And sometimes you have to ask yourself, ‘do I want real relationships and friends in my life or do I want to hide my true self away and live a lie?’.